Last year we welcomed our beautiful daughter Thea into the world, but how she arrived was completely unexpected, click here to see my birth story. See, when you get pregnant (well for me at least) I thought that it was going to be all rainbows and fluffy clouds and I was going to be glowing with pregnancy radiance…. I’m actually laughing writing this! Now I’m not saying that I didn’t enjoy my pregnancy because I did. I absolutely loved being pregnant, even with the SPD, Nausea and headaches I flipping loved being pregnant. when I was around 7 months pregnant I was looking at writing my birth plan. This is when I came across hypnobirthing. What is hypnobirthing you ask, well according to hypnobirthing.co.uk “Hypnobirthing is a complete antenatal education. Hypnobirthing classes are intended to help you have the most natural childbirth possible, using easily-learned self hypnosis and breathing techniques. Whatever kind of birth you’re planning – homebirth, hospital, birthing centre or whatever – Hypnobirthing can help.”
I started researching this a bit and went on YouTube to have a look at some videos of people who have used hypnobirthing. I follow some lovely ladies on YouTube and 2 that stood out were Emily Norris and Louise Pentland. Emily had put on her birth story and went into how she stayed calm and managed to have a home birth with the help of hypnobirthing. I started looking into positive affirmations and downloaded a few onto my phone. it wasn’t until January when Louise gave birth to beautiful Pearl that I found The Positive Birth Company, I watched the birth stories on the website and absolutely wanted to try hypnobirthing. Now I was very heavily pregnant at this time and I wish I had jumped into hypnobirthing a bit more but I didn’t, so much happened in my lasts months of pregnancy that I didn’t really have any me time. I had a bit of a read and watched the YouTube videos but I didn’t really look into anything more. I didn’t even read into anything about C-Sections as I just didn’t think that would happen to me…. Now looking back onto my birth story I know that my C-Section couldn’t have been avoided, Thea was in distress and her heart rate was all over the place. I know this but I still feel like my body failed in someway. now in no way am I saying that people who have had C-sections have failed, wether it be elective or emergency. I just felt so ready for my body to go through a natural process of giving birth and I felt a bit cheated out of it. Whatever way your baby comes into this world it is beautiful and precious.
It took a good 4 months for my body to feel a bit normal after having Thea, and it was at this time that I felt like if I had a vaginal birth I could have been more comfortable and enjoyed it a bit more.
Me and Danny have talked and we would definitely love to have more children in the future. But I have a problem in that I’m now terrified that the same thing will happen. All the hypnobirthing that I have read about doesn’t go into inductions, C-sections and so on. I am on the Positive Birth Company mailing list and I received an email a few weeks ago about Siobhan Miller’s new book and that she will be doing a book launch. It was literally like a spark inside me lit and I just knew I had to go. I had read since having Thea so many lovely positive birth stories and I wanted to educate myself more.
The book launch took place in Birmingham and I decided to take my mum with me. Danny booked the day off work to look after Thea and we caught the train down in the afternoon. I haven’t really spent that much time with my mum just the two of us so it was really lovely to have some time together. We went out for dinner at Jamie’s Italian which was amazing and headed over to Waterstones to get ready for the event. I had never been to a book launch before so didn’t really know what to expect. It was really good though as there wasn’t a huge amount of people and it felt quite intimate.
I met Siobhan and Louise and they were super lovely, they were happy to answer any questions we had and we all had a bit of a chat and talked about the book. we also had some question time. Going in to this I didn’t really have any questions to ask but as we were opening up i felt compelled to ask a question. I explained my fear, which was that having an emergency C-section the first time, what advice would you give for staying in control and relaxed if the same situation arises. Siobhan’s answer was so clear and made complete sense to me. She said to make a birth plan for any situation that arises, that way you can still be in control and things will be more relaxed if plans have to change (This is also written in her book). We had a brilliant time and I’m honestly feeling so much more positive for when the time comes when we would like more children in the future. I also met some really lovely mums and had some great conversations.
Hypnobirthing isn’t this hippy mumbo jumbo thing, It is actually very scientific. It is understanding how birth works from a physiological perspective and how hormones play a major role in labour, and what muscles are required to birth. It is teaching your body and mind how to relax whilst going through a positive process all whilst staying in control.
Hope you enjoyed reading, leave me a comment if you have any questions.
*Not sponsored, book and ticket to event purchased with my own money